Singaporean men not as attractive as China men

From ‘Be my man…if you dare’, 4 Sept 2011, article by Joyce Lim, TNP online

SHE’S tall, fair and buxomy. And even though China-born singer Zhang Miao Yu thinks Singaporean men are short, workaholic and not as attractive as the men in China, she’s on the prowl to snag one of her own.

Since her arrival in Singapore five months ago, the 26-year-old, who performs at Shanghai Dolly, hasn’t had a shortage of suitors who lavish gifts and attention on her.

Zhang isn’t the only one – and lawyers are expecting a rise in Chinese women marrying and divorcing here due to a recent ruling by China’s Supreme Court makes it difficult for wives to claim a share of assets paid for by their husbands.

Hello Shanghai Dolly

As if being China-born isn’t a cause for worry enough, Zhang also works in a nightclub. With a sharp tongue and dangerous curves, this is one woman all Singaporean men must be wary of. As one myself, it is my duty to warn any fellow Singaporean male thinking of taking the bait at Shanghai Dolly. The Singaporean male has been typecast with so many deficiencies, whether it’s being unromantic, ungentlemanly, wimps, unattractive or sheltered, that it doesn’t matter what a China woman calls us anymore because the fact that we haven’t been wiped out of existence by now means we’re doing something right after all. Here’s a short history of how China nationals have captured the hearts, and wallets, of our local men, with tangled tales of bankruptcy and death included:

In 2004, China national Li Jin was involved in a passport forgery scam, just one of the many charges laid on Asia Breweries finance manager and lover Chia Teck Leng, who  was eventually convicted of commericial fraud and sentenced to 42 years in prison. The following year saw the high profile ‘Kallang Body Parts’ murder case, in which Singaporean supervisor Leong Siew Chor chopped up production operator and lover (what else) Liu Hong Mei’s body into seven parts, dumping some into the Kallang River.

Also in 2005, a certain Mr Tan had his life savings swiped of $100,000 by his China wife, who was supporting her son from a previous marriage back in her homeland. She promptly disappeared after being granted her PR status. A Today letter from an anonymous victim of a China affair was also published in the same year, detailing how her husband cheated on her twice, BOTH instances with China nationals.

In 2006, China nightclub worker Guo Juan, also 26, disappeared after being embroiled in a scandalous tryst involving a ex-husband and a married NTU don Professor Bryan Ngoi, both Singaporeans, the latter being the chair of an immigration panel advising on citizenship application with whom she was having an affair (for obvious reasons).

2 years later,  Singaporean Lim Hok Lai was charged with murder for fatally retaliating against his China masseuse lover who ‘stabbed him at least 7 times in the stomach’, upon his failing to agree to a $30,000 separation fee which she was trying to extort from him. The most famous ‘China woman’ to Singaporeans, international star Gong Li (and probably soon to be ex-Singaporean), made headline news in 2010 by divorcing her Singaporean husband of more than 10 years Ooi Hoe Seong, 2 years after obtaining her citizenship in 2008, with rumours rife that she was being romantically linked with Sun Zhou, a Chinese director, and even actor John Cusack. It appears that there are 2 things which a China woman obtains before leaving her Singaporean man:  His money and/or a Singaporean PR status or citizenship. In terms of profiling, she’s also likely to be uneducated and a low-wage earner, excepting Gong Li of course. And what do our PRCs give back to Singapore in return for our hospitality? Heartbreak, broken families and empty pockets. So, we may be short and ugly blokes, but at least we ain’t conniving, greedy bitches.

From the brief history of murder and mayhem above, the greatest risk factors for getting your life utterly ruined by unscrupulous China nationals is that you’re rich or married with children. All the cases mentioned involved an illicit relationship and money. Of course there could be many happy, honest relationships between local men and China nationals out there, with the cases listed above among the more extreme outcomes of all possible liaisons.  However,  one also needs to consider all the unreported marital and financial damages caused by PRC flings which we hear about all the time. This also raises a startling social concern which our Government has chosen to overlook while trying to salvage the dismal fertility rate among Chinese Singaporeans, to the point of allowing a staggering 1 million PRCs, and God knows how many PRs, to make their living amongst us, even if it’s likely that they’re here on a ‘take and go’ basis. In fact, with gold digger PRCs ruining marriages, conning gullible loners and then disappearing, it’s even possible to have negative growth in the long run because 1. They break up families who could have had more children 2. They deprive local men of a chance to start a real family 3. They deprive local women of a chance with local men. In a way, our Government IS the embodiment of the typical smitten Singaporean male when it comes to embracing PRCs: Short (sighted), workaholic and oh so gullible.

A little prejudice as a precaution against any potential crime of passion or trickery may be useful here, not just towards China nationals but any beautiful woman who claims she’s looking for a lifelong partner among short, ugly men. It’s also no coincidence that to be ‘Shanghai-ed’ is to be ‘put by trickery into an undesirable position’ according to Merriam Webster. The New Paper is irresponsibly sensational here in acting as a dating agency for the likes of Zhang Miaoyu, and I can only hope the same paper doesn’t report another story about her a few years down the road in which someone gets conned of his life savings or jailed for murder.


6 Responses

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  2. One man chooses his own poison. Who to blame for when the men chose to betray their family? He might have been tempted, but the decision was his and his alone.

    I will leave it at this. It’s just too easy to lay all the blame on PRC women.

    • Agree that it takes two hands to clap. Cheating men is one thing but can you really fault those who were just lonely desperate and simply too trusting?

    • sure the men are at fault too. (and from a woman’s perspective, men are always at fault).

      but isn’t it a coincidence that it’s always the PRCs? why not the vietnamese/thais/indonesians/malaysians/caucasions/whichever country you can think off?

      if there is no one is tempting, then there will be no one tempted.

  3. Well only stupid men will fall for sluts like the Lady of NIGHT featured here……even dare to come to singapore work here and insult SIngapore Men???? Go back t where u r from I m sure the China Men there will treat you LIKE A SLUT and NOTHING ELSE

  4. All Singaporeans should stop patronising the Shanghai Dolly…….So our SLUT can go HOME

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